Goals, goals, goals!

I can’t quite believe its another year already.  Time is just flying by, and you would have thought that 2020 would have been slow what with the pandemic and all of our reduced activities, but no, I found that too just flew by.

So here we are in 2021, and I don’t know about you, but I have been left feeling more disconnected from people than I have ever felt before.  My goals for the new year therefore are all about building a greater connection with people.  I choose in the first instance to do this through writing.

I choose writing as this has always been the way I express myself.  I’m no painter, no artist.  My creativity has always been through words, stories and poems.  (Although poems is a weird one, because I have always said that I don’t really get poetry, but when I look back, I do write poems, so I’m adding it in as a creative option.)

Writing has always been my go to, if I’m stressed I write it down.  I have written countless letters to people that will forever remain unsent, it is the process of writing, the brain dumping, that enables me to clear my mind and let go of whatever it is that is troubling me.

Sometimes I have shared my writing with others, and I enjoy the feedback I get from doing that.

I think we all need a place for creative expression.

There are different ways of writing, and journalling is often talked about in the personal development field.  Hal Elrod in his Miracle Morning uses a ten minute journalling technique as part of his process.  And then there’s Morning Pages, which are basically three pages of longhand text written first thing in the morning, as a stream of consciousness – a way of dumping any stuff that’s on our minds, leaving our brains ready to crack on with the day.  There is no wrong way of doing any of these things – it is in the doing that the magic happens!  The beauty of journalling is that it is not intended to be art, it is creation just for you.

Goals for the New Year:

  1.  Writing my blog, every week (it’s only 52 weeks!)
  2.  Emailing my community, every week
  3.  Using social media more – to be more sociable (who’d have thunk it?!)

So not only are my goals around writing and creativity, but also connecting with people and being more sociable.  I have missed people a lot during 2020, and even if I can’t get out and about so much, I still want to connect.  The internet is a wonderful thing, and I intend to make the most of it in 2021.

Connection with others is so important.  None of us live in isolation, even hermits exist within a social structure – in the fact that others know they are hermits!  Their existence is acknowledged, they are counted in the world, but they are not necessarily connected.  Ben Fogle’s Lives in the Wild is a fascinating documentary of people who have chosen to live outside of most human connection, but these individuals are not the norm!  And most (not all) have had an experience of life that has led them to withdraw socially.  I digress…

When we connect with others it makes our existence more meaningful:

“A deep sense of love and belonging is an irresistible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to.”

~ Brené Brown

And sometimes connection goes wrong and it can hurt or be broken prematurely, but it doesn’t take away the human need for one another.


How about you?  What are your goals for the New Year?  Want to share?  Contact me or leave a comment below: you know I’m looking forward to hearing from you!

See you online in 2021!