Resistance – it really is futile!
This is something I have discovered recently. You may be saying, ‘what do you mean? that saying’s been around for yonks!’
But, believe me, I had never really thought about before. And then recently I started to research it…
Resistance – it really is futile. And when I say futile, I mean completely pointless, waste of time, and ridiculous.
I started to find that some clients were resisting the things that they said they most wanted. Which initially I thought was crazy. And then, as if by magic, I started to do it too! Resist the things I most wanted, AND come up with perfectly well thought out explanations as to why I was doing the resisting.
So I researched. And I found, that Therapists talk about resistance quite a lot. But, this definitely wasn’t the kind of resistance I was thinking about, in fact much of it seemed to be helping therapists to explain why people weren’t turning up for sessions, and so on – not my point at all.
My question was why in everyday life, do we say “I want this thing, I want it so bad, I can’t stop thinking about it, I just know if I can do this thing, have this thing, create this thing – my life will be the best it’s ever been AND some.” And THEN we come up with all these excuses and reasons as to why we can’t do it, get it, have it. And then, a lot of people seem to give up.
The thing becomes something that is “not available to them”. This is one if the existential problems that we humans face btw. But, really the only thing getting in the way of this is ourselves. What do you think about that?
We are the ones who say “I can’t” or we build walls around the things and forget to create a door, or put the thing on an island where it cannot be reached except in a golden helicopter.
Resistance belongs to us. We seem to love it. But we also hate it. It gets in our way. And we let it.
Resistance stops us from getting the things we really want for our lives.
Resistance could be thought of as your inner ‘rebel’. My ‘rebel’ was important to me once, as a child and teenager, but as an adult this importance is lesser. ‘Rebel’ really just gets in my way. So this got me wondering whether ‘rebel’ can ever really be helpful in adulthood? But, how can it, when it just makes us resist the things that we really want? It brings the next question – do we really want the thing that we say we do?
It makes me think about fitness and resistance bands. I want to build strength or muscle, so I might use a resistance band to help me to do so, so in this case the resistance supports my goal for fitness. But the band can’t help with my resistance to exercise: different kind of resistance ~ maybe I’m off-topic here…
The desired outcome though, has to be stronger than the resistance itself. So do we need to understand the resistance in order to clear it and break on through to the things that we really want? Yes and no. Depending upon the strength of desire for the outcome.
If anyone wants to explore resistance with me in hypnotherapy, I’d be delighted to support you. Understanding is power and the clarity and understanding gained in hypnosis, and through conversations with the subconcious even more so. You can book a possibility call with me here.
What is stopping you? #breakthroughtheresistance